But everyone wants to know why you are. I can’t count the number of times I’ve been asked “So – what brings you here?”, as if this is some post-apocalyptic wasteland. No. We live most of our lives online, so why is it a surprise that we also look to meet new people online?
Some people are on dating apps just to look for new friends, and say so upfront {surely there are other avenues than a casual dating site, people}. Some are super-defensive about being on Tinder. Easily one of the most common phrases you’ll see on people’s profiles here are “not here for a hookup.” Well then. Okay. I didn’t ask, but thank you for clarifying. {Another phrase is #sapiosexual, but that’s a matter for a future episode}.
On the other hand, every now and then, I’ll “match” with someone who’s super-honest. Perhaps too honest. Take the case of the visiting researcher who just wanted casual sex – and told me as much within a few minutes of conversation.
“I already know a lot of interesting people,” he said. “I’m in India just for a couple of weeks, so my priority is hookups.”
What a refreshing change, right? Not really.
Hell, I’m all for a hookup – I’m on Tinder, after all – but am I so ancient that we’re past the need to make conversation before we make out? Doesn’t good conversation actually make the sex that much hotter?
I politely thanked him for his frankness, and hit “unmatch”.